Relationships Thursday: Marriage, Sacrifice and Their Degree

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Marriage is principally an Institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually cherished and sexual, are acknowledged. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity. When defined broadly, marriage is considered a cultural universal.

Since the late twentieth century, major social changes in Western countries have led to changes in the demographics of marriage, with the age of first marriage increasing, fewer people marrying, and many couples choosing to cohabit rather than marry.

However it is not clear to many, up to which extent one should go to sacrifice his/her, marriage when it comes to whether it is best of times or worst of times.

Caroline an advocate and a mother of two says ”I know am supposed to hang in there for better or for worse but when it reaches a time when I cant take it anymore, I will surely walk out of”

Unlike her many others are much willing to lose themselves or sacrifice mind, body and soul for a marriage lied .Yes they are straight lied to “Until death do us part” Does that mean you must die a slow death in order to fulfill your marriage vows?

Its factual some sacrifices which one must make for her/his marriage to survive, but not all are worth the forfeit. They are those that one will be required to make on daily basis, which you will be supposed to do them gladly and devotedly On the other hand there are other sacrifices which are not worth to take.

It’s more necessary always to have answers as what really makes us happy. Externalizing our desires and goals sometimes leads to poor consequences.

While you still want to get married and live happily thereafter there is still need for you to follow your dreams. Research shows that a lot of women tend to be “all about him” in a relationship or marriage. A situation where by the wife is basically being an accomplice to the husband.

Don’t get me wrong am not saying that a woman should not respect his husband or be a little submissive once in a while. My concern is up to what point should women go some wives are too willing to give up on what they want contrast to the all “about me” attitude of men, what they want, which is the nucleus of the society.

Usually, many wives are afraid it could make a fight or some repulsiveness, or they just think somehow, on a subconscious level, in order to preserve the relationship, they have to lessen what they want themselves.

Usually, many wives are afraid it could make a fight or some unpleasantness, or they just think somehow, on a subconscious level, in order to preserve the relationship, they have to diminish what they themselves want.

The truth is that most women underestimate their worth. In their quest to make the marriage work, they give up on their dreams and things they really want and most times, the marriage ends up breaking up anyway. This is because the feeling of hopelessness will turn to anger soon enough and eventually boils over.

A woman was created to be a man’s companion and support and not to be an accessory to him. A woman has the right to live her dreams, have what she wants while building a happy family with the man she loves.

The best way to begin building a happy and long lasting relationship is to begin by first holding yourself accountable for what is not working right in your marriage, and what does that cost you ? It forces you to begin to look for a way to turn things around because you now realize that it is your responsibility to do so.

Someone once said, marriage is like cooking your best meal, you add all the spices to make it a delicious meal, and when eating time come, you are treating yourself to an ”enjoyable meal” .To put in other word, you are the master of your destiny, the draftswoman of your fortune and responsible for your own success.

As you make your bed so you will lie on it. No one can make your marriage successful for you and your spouse. There is a saying that “if it’s going to be it’s up to me”. It is all up to you. The defy stop at your table. So to save your marriage and make it better than before, you need to put your shoulders to the wheel. The leading actor lies in you.

—– Another Incisive and inspiring piece from the Talented Nancy Wyna—— Please leave her your comments – and be sure to check read her column every Thursday on Relationships – Only on The Timitude Blog.